
Have you ever had a dream come true that you never really dreamed of?
That’s how I felt about the dinner I co-hosted for Oscar nominee Ruby Dee.
Ms. Dee (as we all called her) is in her mid-eighties and as you know if you saw the movie for which she was nominated - “American Gangster” - she’s still got it. A lot of it. She was gorgeous at the Academy Awards in a ruby-red gown created especially for her by Kevan Hall. (My co-hosts for the dinner were Kevan and Vogue’s Andre Leon Talley.)
Kevan had been so moved by his experience dressing her and had heard from so many people about how inspiring she is to them that he wanted to honor her in some way. She’s contributed more than 60 years of service to our country in American cinema and theater and in civil rights activism. She loves fashion, and she is very charming and funny.
I had heard so much about Ruby Dee over the years, she’s like an icon in my mind.
As Kevan said in his toast, “if she were in England she would be Dame Ruby Dee.”
We decorated Melba’s restaurant, where the private dinner was held, with white flowers and white candles. It made for a vivid, romantic picture against the restaurant’s predominantly black interior.
The evening ended with gifts: A pair of $10,000 pearl and diamond earrings presented to Ms. Dee by Mikimoto. Not to be outdone by Mikimoto, I had thought long and hard about what to present to her from our eBay team. Jewelry? No. Fashion? No. A car? Just kidding. Finally, it hit me. I’d look up Ruby Dee on eBay.
There I found the most fabulously stylish photo of her taken when she was an ingénue in the studio system. “This is double satin ribbon,” she said mischievously as she pulled the ribbon wrapping off the box containing the framed photo. Her jaw dropped when she saw it.
Most of the 30 or so guests were from the fashion flock and several reported they were close to tears as they watched her and listened to her fashion stories and life philosophies.
“Everyone deserves a hug like this in their lifetime,” she said of the evening. “I hope you all receive one.”
It felt like, she said, God had reached down from the heavens, patted her on the back and said, “Atta, girl!”